I take due diligence in trying to create an organic, well rounded blog here at Michaelaslifestyle. One where I encourage and support my readers and subscribers, as well as entertain them (hopefully). I, however have to be real with you all.
Without going into detail, let me say this:
Some people are horrible. Insensitive, uncouth and just deplorable human beings. Also stupid. Be aware of this, acknowledge this and accept this. This is a fact. There are horrible people out there. I, unfortunately had the displeasure of encountering a less than decent human recently and it has honestly taken me awhile to recalibrate, readjust and REASON within my being, reminding myself of this
“I am not what this individual thinks of me”.
The old adage “sticks and stones may break my bones but words cannot hurt me” is a misleading, nonsensical lie! Not only do words hurt, psychologically, words can at times cause more damage than physical wounds. Poor mental health is affecting millions if not billions of people around the world and should be a genuine concern that’s addressed. If you doubt my words, let me walk you through statistics surrounding mental health:
SUICIDE, is a leading cause of death in young men and women aged 20-34 in the UK and is the leading cause of death in men under 45 years old.
The UK has one of the highest self-harm rates in Europe
Depression is the predominant mental health problem worldwide, followed by anxiety, schizophrenia and bipolar disorder
80-90% of people who attempt/die by suicide have a mental health condition, but not all are diagnosed
I’m not here to preach, however I’m here to say this . Be nice. You have no idea what people are going through. An inconsiderate action on your part could be someone’s breaking point. I like to balance my arguments so it’s necessary to note, if an individual is obscenely negative, projecting vile and irrefutable comments/behaviour your way, clearly they have been
1)Hurt – cut people bleed on others
2)are suffering through something and that is manifesting itself in their being and expressed through mean actions – they are incapable of using the darkness that they’re experiencing as a tool for growth
3) They know better but choose to be ignorant and mean – hopefully this will change with time and experience
I’ve learnt that, as decent humans we have to be patient, understanding, tolerant and there for one another through adversity. This is a given.
However, I have only recently come to discover that as much as care for others is important, you cannot and should not destroy your peace and feng shui for the sake of someone else. IT IS NOT WORTH IT AND WILL END UP BEING MORE DAMAGING TO YOU. I believe in God and with him all things are possible. If I see a toxic/damaging individual, I’ll pray for them from a distance but it is not my job to try and save a person, only God can do that.
In conclusion :
People can be crappy. What you can do is :
Be nice. Be compassionate. Be thoughtful. Be patient. Pray for people. Reach out to people. Be a light in times of darkness. Don’t forget to protect your peace.
Ps. Always forgive and make peace! I struggle to do this without prayer but you know, each to his own.